I had a dream last night. I dreamed that I was 16 again. I saw my younger parents, their younger friends and I was in the body of the young Laura. But there was one very special difference — I knew everything that I know now. All the experiences I made, the lessons I learned, the knowledge I gained, the career I chose, the people I met, the places I have been.
If You Would Know What Will Happen, Would You Do It All Differently?
When I woke up this morning I had this strange but beautiful sensation — I felt reconnected to my younger self. I am very sure that is what this dream wanted to tell me. I felt the urge to write down all the things I would do differently if I ever got the chance to be 16 again. Here are some of the things I wrote down:
- study dance and filmmaking
- before you love anyone else, learn to love yourself
- don’t work towards a 9 to 5 job, invest time in building your own business and skills
- only eat good food, take care of your body
- be an early adapter
To be honest, I could never give this advice to myself or anyone else without my 30 years of experience — that is for sure.
Here Is the Naked Truth
I would not give this advice to my younger self — because let us be realistic, I cannot. I am 30 years old and if someone does not invent a time machine soon, I will not have the chance to go back.
I am not sharing this with other 16, 20 or 25-year-olds so that they can take my advice and do it better. Because I am of the opinion that listening to the experience of another person can be helpful, but real learning only comes from your own experience.
To learn, you have to make the mistake, fall down, recognise it, get up and do it better next time. That is real evolution.
What to Do With This List?
This advice really is for your present self. Right here, right now. How is that possible, you might ask yourself — at first it might seem impossible to change something you did not do in the past. It is all about how you look at this advice, and how you translate it from your past into your present. Think about it, every single point you wrote down has the potential to influence and change your present and will help you to come closer to your life’s purpose.
It is never too late. Now is the time to start taking control of your life.
Take Your Own Advice
For example, if I could turn back time I would definitely study dance and filmmaking, instead of international business. Of course, right now I cannot go back to university like I did when I was 18 years old. But I can take this clue I gave myself to recognise what I really want to do in my life and spend more time doing it. Nowadays there are so many possibilities and resources to learn and study whatever you want.
Let me give you some examples of how I would translate my advice into this present:
- Study dance and filmmaking: I will invest my time in studying and learning about filmmaking, photography and content creation — which is easy to do online nowadays. I will also take dance classes again.
- Only eat good food: I will take more care of what I eat and become more knowledgeable in the area of nutrition and a healthy lifestyle.
- Invest your time in building your own business: This is a very clear instruction of what I should be doing right now — building my own brand and becoming independent, without fear.
- Learn to love yourself: Right now is not the time to be in a relationship, first I should invest time in my own self-love — only then I can share my love with another person.
- Be an early adapter: I will start researching the digital market, keeping an eye open to the newest trends in order to be on top of the game – but without getting lost in technology.
Now It Is Your Turn — Try This Transformational Journaling Prompt
I would totally recommend you to do this quick and easy exercise, even without dreaming about it first. Here is how you do it:
- Go Inward
Take a moment to close your eyes, visualising your younger self. Now really imagine yourself as a younger version of yourself, but with your current mind (you choose the age, whatever feels best).
2. Get Creative
Imagine that you have the opportunity for a fresh start. What would you do differently? Give yourself some advice and write it all down. This can be in all areas of your life (studies, job, relationship, self-love, dreams, lifestyle, nutrition etc)
3. Transform Your Present
Now look at each and every point and translate it to your present —how can you apply your own advice to your present? Once you identify the action steps you can take — start doing it. There is nothing more powerful than to just start, the rest will fall into place.
All of that advice for my younger self is actually even better advice for my present self.
Remember, it is never too late to start building your best life.
Everything happened exactly how it should have. Every little thing in your life — every person, circumstance, object, learning, mistake, breakup, breakdown, blessing — absolutely everything is perfect. Accept it, own it, now do it better.
You Are Your Best Coach and Master
And let me tell you one more thing: no one else can really tell you what you should or should not do in your life.
You are your best advisor. You are your best coach.
Nowadays, there are so many coaches out there, wanting to help you in your professional career, spiritual development, health, family life, partnership and so on. Do not get me wrong, sometimes it is good to receive advice and help from someone who has already made that mistake, but honestly, very few of us will avoid mistakes just because others told us so. Most of the times, we need to make mistakes ourselves. For that reason, your experience, your life – is your greatest life coach.
You are your best life coach and your greatest master.
Never underestimate the power you have over your own life. Right now you might feel stuck in a job you do not like and unable to make a change, but there is always a way to break out of society. If you really want to transform your life and do what you love — just start. Reflect on your own life and be honest with yourself. Then take action — even the tiniest drop of change can cause the biggest wave of transformation. I believe in you.
If you would like to look deeper into this journaling idea, I invite you to watch this video I created — for you:
Thank you for appreciating my art!